How to Write an Excellent Sex Scene

I don't sit in my office and go, "I'm going to write a really cool sex scene." I hope we leave behind forever the idea of the sex scene on page 49, which is a market invention. If you want to write an excellent sex scene, you have to liberate it from the idea of a sex scene…. You have to thread sexuality through every part of a character or a person's life, rather than limiting it to a titillating few pages where something juicy happens. You have to understand that sexuality is omnipresent in your body — your entire life. 

LIDIA YUKNAVITCH